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NOT EVERY ONE DESERVE TO BE YOUR FRIEND

NOT EVERY ONE DESERVE TO BE YOUR FRIEND

 
who deserve to be your friend

INTRODUCTION

We all need someone to keep us busy in our free times, someone to gist us, someone to share our happiness and sadness with, someone to talk to when depressed, someone to visit, someone to visit us, someone to have fun with, someone to turn to when in need, someone we can look up to and say yes he is my friend.

But remember, not everyone deserve to be your friend!

You just have to be selective.

You need to know who you are, why you need and a friend and what you expect from that friendship, this is because you want a long term relationship not a time pass, so to achieve this you need to dig deep and find the right person.

Lets break the above mentioned things down

WHO ARE YOU?

This is the first question you need to ask yourself, you need to know the kind of person you are, your habits, your likes, your dislikes, your favorites, to cut the story short you need to know your personality, you need to know and understand the kind of person you are.

Knowing the kind of person you are will help you narrow your thoughts on who should be your friend.

This will help you find a friend whose personality, behaviour and attitudes correspond with yours.

WHY DO YOU NEED A FRIEND?

Yes, why do you really need a friend?
Do you need someone to keep you busy and be your company? Or do you need someone to share your problem with? Do you need someone to rely on ? Or do you need someone to help you reshape your life?

There are many reasons why you may need a friend, find your own reason!

Knowing the reason why you need a friend will help make things easy for you in looking for a friend that will suite your personality.

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM A FRIEND?

Knowing yourself and the reason why you need a friend is not enough, you need to know what you are expecting from such friendship.

But to know what you are to expect from a friend you first need to know why you need a friend, that same reason why you need a friend is the thing to expect from your friend.

I believe this is self-explanatory.

WHO SHOULD BE YOUR FRIENDS AND WHO SHOULD NOT

As the title of this article implies, it is not everyone that deserve to be your friend, and this notion is non-arguable, its a general fact, so the question here is who should be your friend and who shouldn't?

The answer varies across individuals with respect to your personal behaviours, attitudes and personality and the reason why you need a friend.

But here are some general rules that are applicable to everyone.

WHO SHOULD YOU HOLD AS A FRIEND

There are many qualities one should have before you should consider him as a friend, below are some of them as recommended by us.

GOOD PERSONALITY

It is very important to find a friend that is of good personality, someone whose attitudes and behaviours are admonished by many.

Finding a friend with good personality will not only make the friendship last longer and sail smoothly but also it will be a factor in determining your true identity and personality, as it is said "Abokin barawo barawo ne - Hausa proverb" translated as "A friend of thief is a thief", as there is a very popular quote saying "Tell me who your friend is and i will tell you who you are", so a friend plays a vital role in portraying your real and true personality so choosing one with good personality is not an option anymore (though it was never) but a must.

WHO REGARD YOU AS FRIEND

Just imagine how dull things will be if you visit a friend 5-6 times but he never visit him, when you call him numerously but h never call you, when you text him too often but e never did, definitely this one doesn't deserve to be your friend.

Find someone who hold you as a friend just the way you did, care about you, who consider your success as his success and your problem as his own.

This kind of friend will make you feel like you are the luckiest person on earth.

WHO YOU SHARE SAME INTEREST

Finding a friend you share same interest with is a blessing.

He will be your motivation in terms of studies, your chat mate regarding your favourite songs, films, tv shows, sports and other recreational activities and hobbies.

GOOD ATTITUDES

Your friend should be of good attitude

I know i don't have take it deep here because it is related to personality and i have explained it in depth above.

RESPECT YOU AND YOUR CHOICES

You should find a friend who respect your personality, someone who admire your attitudes and behaviours.

And also, your friend should be someone who value and respect your choices even if it is not his favourite.

PEOPLE TO AVOID AS FRIENDS

There are many people you should avoid as friends, this is because a friend can influence his friends attitudes and characters, some friends will influence you for bad, these are the people to avoid, below are some of the attitudes of people you should avoid as friends:

DRUG ADDICTS

Drugs abuse is rampant especially among youths, it has so many effects to your mental health, personality and physical well being.
You can read my indepth article on the reason why you should quite drugs, i highlighted most of the suicidal effects of drug abuse, and the threats it has on ones mental health, physical health which can lead to memory lost or death.

So friends that are drug addicts should be avoided, this is because there is every possibility that they may tempt or influence you to join them.

TERRORIST

A person who is believed to be terrorist shouldn't be your friend, as you will be at the risk of being arrested by security personnels.

Any person that can inflict injury on someone's body does not deserve to be your friend, and in case you met such people you should try to report them to security personnels for peace to reign.

I have made a post on the emergency number to call for such related complaints in Nigeria every Nigerian should read it, i will also try to make the emergency numbers of other countries in my upcoming articles.

CONCLUSION

A friend should be someone who motivate you, share your happiness and sadness, cheer you up when you are distressed, someone who will be your support.

You should avoid any friend that is drug addict, terrorist or criminal, who doesn't value you or respect your interest.

By taking these precautions we have every hope that you will enjoy your friendship, because we are sure you will make the right choice while choosing a friend.

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Abuaslam is blogger and passionate about helping others succeed. I like dialoges and discussions that tech and politics related.

7 comments

  1. Finding true friends can be difficult!

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    1. Thats true ... True friends are scarce these days .. We need to be careful with who we mingle

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  2. Finding true friends can be difficult!

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  3. Having a few really good friends is better that a 100 who you don't know you can really count on

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    1. Real fact ... A friend in need is a friend indeed
      Not everyone deserve our friendship

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  4. As the proberb goes"Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are

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    1. Raw fact ... Our friends speak much on who we are

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